Tuesday, October 02, 2007

One absentee speaks

I had my haircut today. My hairdresser is a guy who was singing in the choir at my church off and on the first six months I was here. Then, he stopped coming at all. I figured it was because his voice teacher had applied to be our new Director of Music, but was not chosen for the position. I figured he was mad on her behalf and was thus staying away. I kept going to him for haircuts, though I didn't bring up the subject because there were usually quite a few others in the shop at the time and I didn't think it was appropiate to bring up the topic in a "public" place.

Today I was the only one there. I came at it obliquely. "Are you doing any singing?"

He enthusiastcaly told me about a Master Choral Society he had just joined and invited me to their Christmas concert.

"That's great!" I said. "We sure miss your voice in our choir, though."

He sighed. Then he told me that in the last year his daughter had left her husband and moved in with him bringing her two pre-schooler sons. Also, his parents' health had taken a downward turn and they were able to do less and less for themselves, becoming more and more isolated.

He said, "I feel bad about church, but on Sunday mornings I either spend time with my two grandsons. They've been pretty torn up by the whole divorce and need some grandpa attention. Or I drive out to my parents, (about an hour away), and spend Sunday doing stuff for them around their house or taking them out to errands since neither of them drive anymore."

Our eyes met in the big salon mirror.

"It sounds like you are too busy being a good Christian on Sundays to get to church." I told him.

He smiled. "I guess I never thought about it that way."


more cows than people said...

oh, i'm so glad you got to have that conversation. very heartening all around.

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Presbyterian Gal said...

Good for both of you to have that conversation. An easing of spirit on both ends.

Princess of Everything (and then some) said...

You must have helped him so much!

SpookyRach said...

Rock on!

(I must be stuck in hair-mode because I originally read PG's comment as 'an easing of splits on both ends'. *snickers*)

cheesehead said...

Sometimes these things just write themselves, don't they?

Good work.

RevHRod said...

Isn't it nice when the tough conversations turn out to be the blessed ones?