Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Who is Clueless--them or me?

So there was a wedding last Saturday. Not surprising for a Saturday in August, right? No one in the bride or groom's family has a connection to our church: they chose it because it is pretty and close to their reception venue. The couple is nice enough and we've met for several pre-marital counseling sessions.

As I'm chatting with members of teh wedding party before the ceremony the Father of the Bride asked me, "I bet you have lots of stories. What's the most outrageous thing you've ever seen at a wedding?" I told a couple of funny moments. Hah Hah.

But after this wedding, I now have another story. The one where the Father of the Bride made big production after the ceremony of presenting me with--------twenty bucks.

Okay folks. Listen up. No honorarium is fine. Really. I'm a pastor. Pastors do weddngs. It's part of the territory.

Receiving the honorarium suggested in our "Weddings at Our Church" brochure and on our wedding contract is also really nice. As a general rule, I donate these to whichever mission or youth project at our church most needs donations at that point.

But twenty bucks? Are they clueless or am I being petty?

13 comments:

ppb said...

un-freaking believable.
Of course I did a wedding for a student, got her a nice gift, too. No thank you for the wedding or the gift.

cheesehead said...

Clueless.

cheesehead said...

I meant them, of course.

Alex said...

Oh boy! 20 whole bucks! Gee wilikers!

KnittinPreacher said...

clueless. Unless you want to give dad the benefit of the doubt - -maybe he thought Bride and Groom paid you? But then why the $20?

SpookyRach said...

ha! ha! people are strange.

Presbyterian Gal said...

Did he pat you on the head and say "There's a good girl" when he handed it to you??

Beyond clueless. More like clue amputee.

Gord said...

clueless

Unless of course they only spent a couple hundered on the reception then it might be considered proportional...

Quotidian Grace said...

As my grandmother would have said, "They have NO BACKGROUND!"

more cows than people said...

i think it was the weekend. if i got paid anything for the wedding i did this weekend it was $20... course then i ended up forking over a bunch of money because of a stupid mistake i made after the wedding.

yes... clueless. them. yours and mine.

Bobbie Giltz McGarey said...

No not petty. I have often wanted to put in the wedding information.. pay the pastor whatever the cake cost.
I think people still take Monopoly chance card as the 'Fee'...

Diane said...

they. are. clueless.
did you do premarital counseling for them?
we changed our wedding policy so that members don't pay to rent the sanctuary, but they still pay us(before it was an optional honorarium).
Weddings are a ton of work.

Mary Beth said...

I think QG's grandma and mine were related.

Mine would say that he was "poorly raised."

:)